The Law of Detachment can help you let go of attachments in order to live a more peaceful life. You release your need to control outcomes, situations, and other people. When you don’t expect and force things to be a certain way, you stop trying to control the things you don’t really have control over and you can focus on the things that are in your control. Read on to see how you can use detachment to reduce stress and anxiety.
The Law of Detachment
The law of detachment says you must let go of the outcome before manifesting what you desire. Give the Universe the opportunity to provide us with what we need. Another way to look at it is that doing your part is enough, and when you are done, you should put it down entirely and trust that your efforts are sufficient. Although you have to put in energy and try your best to get outstanding results, action and desire are all it takes to make your dreams come true. Arguably, the shortest way to say this is, “You reap what you sow.” The key is to put the effort in but then stop worrying about what will happen at harvest time.
What is the Law of Detachment
The Law of Detachment is freedom from imposing your will on the state of things. This law states that you must detach your expectations from things as they are and allow them to be. Doing this helps you manifest your desires into reality. Rather than pushing toward the goal or imposing an expectation of how something is and possibly moving it further away in the process, you allow everything to flow the way it should, knowing that this will inevitably lead you to the places, people, and things you need.
Uncertainty is a natural state. By learning to let go of what you ‘expect’ from things and see them as they are, you’ll find you are more open, accepting, and flexible. Fearing the unknown is like paying off a debt you don’t owe. By embracing the wisdom of uncertainty, you can free yourself from fear when you accept that you cannot control everything.
Benefits of the Law of Detachment
- When we detach ourselves from the expected outcome and surrender ourselves to the different possibilities that exist in the unknown, we open ourselves to more possibilities. As long as we are attached to a specific outcome, we are not open to other possibilities which might even turn out to be better for us.
- Detachment helps you release the things you have no control over, which will help you find inner peace and reduce anxiety.
- You can focus more on the process and the things you can actually control.
How to Use the Law of Detachment
- Allow people to be as they are. Don’t force your opinions on others. Don’t expect people to act and do as you do.
- Don’t force things to turn out the way you want them to. Do what you can to make things happen, then let nature take its course.
- Don’t let uncertainty be a cause for concern.
Law of Detachment Examples
The law of detachment applies to many situations in life. Below are a few examples of how this law can be used in your daily life. By letting go of your attachment to a result or expectation, you will have less stress and worry, letting you relax and enjoy your time and experiences more. The idea of detaching is much easier than its reality. You will have to work hard to let go of the opinions of what things ‘should’ be and embrace not knowing.
Example 1- Law of Detachment in Love
Love is the glue that holds people together, so imagining detachment in love seems harsh or even wrong at first glance, but you are not removing yourself from the love you feel. Instead, you need to detach from your idea of who the person you love ‘should’ be or where your relationship is headed. Focus on the love itself and let the rest drop away. If your deepest desire is to manifest a love that lasts, then you and the person you love will either come together and create that or eventually move aside to allow that lasting love into your life.
Example 2- Law of Detachment in Work
Detaching yourself from work is not like quiet quitting, though they sound similar. When you go to your job, whatever it is, you should do your best and do work you are proud of. However, instead of deciding whether you are successful based on your expectations of what doing that work will yield, let it go when you complete the task. Essentially, your part is done once something goes to the ‘out’ basket (or its equivalent in your industry). After that, you have already done your best work and do not need to spend more energy on it. So long as your path is headed in the right direction, your desires will manifest because you did the work.
Example 3- Law of Detachment in Parenting
Detaching yourself from parenting is another example that seems scary or neglectful at first, but it’s not about skipping out on anything essential. Rather than focusing your energy on turning your child into the person, you think they could or should be. This approach allows them to be who they are. Appreciate your kids for who they are as individuals you can help and direct, but ultimately never control.
Law of Detachment vs The Law of Assumption
When you live a life based on the Law of Detachment, you are letting go of your expectation about any potential outcome from your actions. This is the opposite of the Law of Assumption. Living a life based on the Law of Assumption is all about the end product because it’s seen as an inevitable result of belief.
The Law of Detachment and the Law of Assumption are different philosophical approaches to help you achieve your goals. Manifesting your desires into reality takes work, but you can do anything with enough effort and the power of positive thinking. Whether you choose to embrace uncertainty and live fully in the moment, allowing your desires to manifest as a part of the natural flow of life through the Law of Detachment, or you consciously direct your intentions, assumptions, and beliefs to help create the best space for your own success with the law of Assumption, you can do it. Taking positive forward steps to help yourself live a better, more fulfilling life can look like letting go or fine-tuning every aspect. Either path can lead to a richer life experience and more satisfaction. What matters most is choosing the method that works best for you.