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Personal Growth: How to live your best life

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This website is dedicated to helping you with your personal growth and development. We provide a wide array of personal growth techniques designed to help you grow into the best version of yourself in all areas of your life. However, everyone’s personal growth journey will be different depending on where they are and where they want to go.

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Our free online quiz will diagnose your most persistent obstacles and challenges and will present a number of research-backed solutions for each one. Once you have determined which areas you want to focus on, we will help you build a plan for self-growth based on those specific areas.

What is Personal Growth?

Personal growth or personal development is a process of improving your skills, attitudes, knowledge, actions, habits, or character in an effort to improve your life and increase your overall wellbeing.

Personal development allows you to reach your full potential, be the best version of yourself, and live your best life.

The Benefits of Personal Growth

When you focus on your personal growth, you will see benefits in all aspects of your life. Each improvement in one area will also improve other areas. For example, when you boost your self-esteem and self-confidence, you will find yourself improving your relationships and reaching more goals. When you improve your relationships, you will become happier and when you reach your goals, you will feel more fulfilled. This will also lead to better relationships. When you grow spiritually, you are often better equipped to deal with stress and changes in life. Any change you make will improve your life in other ways too.

Who should work on their personal growth?

  • People who are not living their best life.
  • Anyone whose bad habits interfere with their goals.
  • People who have lost confidence in their ability to reach their goals.
  • Procrastinators who can never get things done.

How much time and effort should I spend on personal development?

Any personal growth journey that leads you to meaningful change will require time and effort. If you stay in your comfort zone, then you won’t make big changes. If you want to make progress, you will need to put in the time and effort. Take your time and don’t take on more than you can handle. Even if you sign up for one of our free 30 day challenges you don’t have to complete it in 30 days. Go at your own pace and do as much as you can. It’s much better to continue your journey for longer than to give up sooner.

Don’t try to tackle too many issues at once. It will be too overwhelming and you will give up. Work on each issue starting with the one you think will have the biggest impact.

Make a list of qualities you’d like to work on and evaluate your performance week after week. Seeing your success will keep you motivated to move forward.

Discover how to transform your life

Motivation

Before you start this journey to personal growth, it is important to know why you want to improve yourself and what your motivation is. This will keep you motivated. The journey will not always be easy, but when you know how much and why you want something, it will make it easier to put in the effort.

Actionable Advice
Write about why you want to make this change.

Keep a personal growth planner or journal (free download)

Keep a personal growth journal to record your progress every day. Use the journal pages to record your progress and work on your mindset. See our free journal templates.

Actionable Advice
Download or print one of the free free journal templates or use a notebook or journal you already have.

Find your purpose

Once you find your purpose in life, you will know where to go. You will have a sense of clarity and direction. It will help you make decisions since you will have a roadmap. You won’t go through life on autopilot. Instead, you will know exactly where you want to go and how to get there. Your purpose will bring you happiness, satisfaction, and stability.

Actionable Advice
If you don’t know what your purpose is in life then this is the perfect time to find your purpose. We will help you find it step-by-step.

Create your own personal mission statement

Your mission statement should define your purpose in life. It should inspire you to take action and reach your potential.

Actionable Advice
Create your personal mission statement. We will help you create it step-by-step.

Create a vision board

Create your vision board with all the things you want to do, places you want to go, experiences you want to have, things you want to learn and things you want to do for self-fulfillment.

A vision board, also known as a dream board, is a collection of images or photos that serve as a visual source of inspiration and motivation for your life’s direction. It is a visual representation of what matters to you and what you want in your life.

Actionable Advice
Create a vision board. You don’t need to create a physical vision board if you don’t have the time. We offer a free online vision board maker to create a printable vision board for inspiration. If you want to make a physical vision board, we offer free printables to make it easier for you.

Address your life balance

If your life isn’t balanced, then this is a good time to address that imbalance. For example, if you are feeling burnt out, it might be a good time to take more breaks, address your work/life balance or focus more on your relationships or self-care.

Take our free online quiz to see if your life is balanced. If it isn’t, you will get a better idea of what to focus on during your personal growth journey.

Actionable Advice

1. Take the online life balance quiz. See wheel of life

2. If your wheel is imbalanced, then download the free wheel of life workbook provided there to improve your life balance.

Develop a growth mindset

Personal growth often requires a change of mindset. People with a fixed mindset obstruct their own personal development through their belief that people cannot change. On the other hand, people with a growth mindset believe that they can change and grow and therefore are willing to work hard to realize their potential. They understand that they are capable of self improvement and development.

Whereas our mindset is often strongly influenced by the role models we had growing up, anyone can develop a growth mindset.

Actionable Advice
Read about a growth mindset and how you can develop one.

Adopt new skills

This is a good time to think about any new skills you would like to develop such as learning a new language, mastering a musical instrument or starting a new hobby.

Actionable Advice
Is there a new skill you would like to acquire? If so, set a goal to develop this new skill. See our free Goal Planner.

Create a bucket list

Create your bucket list with all the things you want to do, places you want to go, experiences you want to have, things you want to learn and things you want to do for self-fulfillment.

Actionable Advice
Create your bucket list. Use our free bucket list template.

Morning routine

Create a personal growth-oriented morning routine. There are many possible activities to include in your morning routine such as meditation, mobility, exercise, journaling, eat that frog, self-care, morning pages (a great way to connect with your creative side), etc.

Actionable Advice
Read about a morning routine and how you can create one that will work for you.

Change your outlook

Some people are more pessimistic by nature and always tend to see the half full glass. You can consciously force yourself to focus on the positive side even if it doesn’t come naturally.

See what to do when life gives you lemons and how you can turn them into lemonade.

Actionable Advice
Try to have no negative thoughts for 24 hours. Each time a negative thought enters your mind block it out. Replace it with positive thoughts of love and compassion. It will be more difficult at first but it will get easier. Once you can go for 24 hours, then try going for longer.

Gratitude

When you are grateful you will improve your self-image, your life, your relationship with others, and your outlook on life. Count your blessings and take time to appreciate what you have. What you think is what you become.

Actionable Advice
Download our free gratitude journal or take our 30 Day Gratitude Challenge.

Overcome limiting beliefs

A limiting belief is a thought or state of mind that you believe to be true that limits you or prevents you from doing certain things.

These beliefs are formed unconsciously based on your childhood or other life experiences. Very often they are simply untrue and are misinterpretations of past events. For many people these limiting beliefs hold them back from living their best life. The problem is that once we have these beliefs, we are not able to reach our full potential and this reinforces the belief you had in the first place. It is a vicious circle that is hard to get out of. However, if you can overcome your limiting beliefs, you can turn things around and achieve things that were not possible when they held you back.

Actionable Advice
We offer a free workbook to overcome limiting beliefs and suggest additional methods that might also help you. See limiting beliefs.

Watch your words

The words you use are extremely powerful. You are what you tell yourself. Your self-talk has a huge impact on your self-esteem. If you tell yourself you are not capable of change, you will not change.

  • Your self-talk changes the way you think about yourself.
  • The way you think about yourself changes the way you feel about yourself.
  • The way you feel about yourself changes the way you behave.
  • The way you behave changes your results and the way people perceive you.

“The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.” Tony Robbins

Actionable Advice
The next time you find yourself engages in negative self-talk, change your language. Talk to yourself in a positive way.

Positive Affirmations

Affirmations are a great way to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence. Affirmations are positive statements or positive self-talk that are read and repeated daily until they are imprinted in your mind and your self-esteem is improved. We offer a free affirmation creator to help you write effective affirmations.

Positive affirmations can rewire your subconscious mind to think differently.

Actionable Advice

Learn how to write affirmations and then repeat them daily. You can then create affirmation cards or wallpaper affirmations with the affirmations you write. This will help you place them in places where you will see them many times each day. We also offer a free printable or digital affirmation journal.

If you would rather we take you through the process of writing affirmations and using them, then use our free affirmation creator or sign up for our free affirmation course on how to use affirmations to transform your life.

Journaling

Each day, reflect on your days. Describe what went well and what didn’t. Use your journal as an outlet for negative emotions. However, try to focus more on the positive things in your life and express gratitude for them. If you are not sure what to journal about then try using our journal prompts.

Another method of journaling is Morning Pages. Morning Pages are 3 pages of longhand writing, done first thing in the morning. Write about anything and everything that crosses your mind.

Use your journal to write about your personal growth journey. Write about how you want to grow, what you want to focus on, and what is preventing you from achieving your goals. Journal about any obstacles you encounter either internal (such as limiting beliefs) or external (such as toxic relationships).

You can use your journal to practice other methods mentioned above such as gratitude, affirmations, reflection, self-love, overcoming limiting beliefs, etc. Journaling also helps you stay focused and keeps you accountable.

Actionable Advice
Download our free journal template. If you are not sure what to journal about then try using journal prompts.

Practice visualization

Visualization is a popular practice that can be used to make changes in your life and achieve your goals. Athletes use this technique to help them reach their goals. They visualize themselves performing and winning before an important race. Use this technique to reach your personal growth goals.

Actionable Advice
Sit somewhere quiet and try to relax. Take 5 deep breaths. Visualize yourself as having already accomplished your goals. Visualize yourself being however you want to be. It could be a self-confident successful person or whatever you strive to be. Think about how you will feel, how you will act, and how others will treat you. Try to repeat this exercise daily.

Self-Care

Self-care is an important part of personal development. When you take good care of yourself, it will reflect a lot on your personal growth.

Actionable Advice

Get out of your comfort zone

Your comfort zone is what you are used to doing, feeling, or thinking. It’s where it’s comfortable and where we know most of the time exactly what is going to happen. It’s where you live life on autopilot.

However, nothing grows in your comfort zone. The longer you stay there the more opportunities you miss. Personal growth and development happen outside of your comfort zone. Each step you take out of your comfort zone leads you closer to personal growth. Even if you make small changes that challenge you, they will eventually add up and make a difference. Leaving your comfort zone gets easier over time.

Actionable Advice
Think of one thing that makes you slightly uncomfortable or one way you can leave your comfort zone today and do it.

Here are some things you can try:

  • Sign up for a new course or class
  • Go somewhere on your own
  • Talk to a stranger (in a safe place)
  • Read about someone who inspires you and find a way to send them a message

Lead a healthier lifestyle

Leading a healthier lifestyle (including exercise and good eating habits) is an important part of self-growth. It isn’t always easy to start exercising regularly or to change your eating habits. If you find it difficult to exercise then see our workout motivation tips.

Actionable Advice
Do you need to make changes in order to lead a healthier lifestyle? If so, what changes do you want to make? Set SMART goals.

Improve your relationships

In happy relationships, people typically have a sense that they’re growing as a person due to being in the relationship (source). There are many reasons for this such as the support that allows you to grow and develop and the opportunities for pleasurable experiences and an expanded sense of self. This does not mean that you cannot grow if you are not in a relationship. However, if you are in a relationship then it should be one that encourages your growth and supports you in the process. If your partner is threatened by your development or tries to prevent it, then this is something you will have to address as it will prevent you from achieving your goals.

Actionable Advice

If you are not in a relationship: see What are you looking for in a relationship?

If you are in a relationship: see our free couples journal to improve your relationship. Understand the The 5 Love Languages – The Secret to Love that Lasts and take stock of your emotional bank accounts.

Forgive yourself and anyone who has wronged you

Forgiveness is crucial along your way to self-growth. Why forgive those who have wronged you? You need to do it for yourself, not for them. The motive is purely selfish. The reason you need to forgive them is so that you can be well and not lose energy. Anger, hate, and resentment drain your energy. They cause you pain and anguish. You are the one who suffers, not them. They might not even know you are angry. Yet, you are the one who carries the negative energy around you wherever you go. It is of no benefit to you to be angry or resentful. Instead, forgive them for whatever they did.

This does not mean that you should accept other people’s behavior and let them cross your boundaries. You can still let them know when they hurt you. But then, forgive them and move on. Not for their benefit, but for yours.

You also need to forgive yourself. You need to learn how to accept yourself just as you are without self-criticism.

The Be-Do-Have Model

The be do have model is a good way to think about your life and your purpose. It will help you take control of your life and understand who you need to be and what you need to do to reach your goals.

With the be do have mindset, you need to first focus on who you have to be to reach a specific goal. Only then, should you should you think about what you need to do to achieve it and what you will have once you do.

Actionable Advice
Read about the Be-Do-Have Model

Act as if you already have the quality you want

“If you want a quality, act as if you already have it.” William James

Now that you have decided to work on your self-growth, you will eventually have all the qualities you want. In the meantime, fake it till you make it. Act as if you already achieved your goal. For example, if you want to be more confident, then act as if you are.

Actionable Advice
Which quality do you want? How would you act if you already had that quality? What can you do to act like that?

Trust your inner voice

We all have an inner voice that guides us. It is like an inner compass that shows us the way based on our innate intelligence, truth, wisdom, or past experiences. However, some people don’t trust their inner voice or are not in touch with it. When your inner voice talks to you, listen to it.

There are some tools you can use to get closer to your inner voice or intuition, such as meditation, journaling, morning pages, self-care.

Adopt the 7 Habits

According to Stephen R. Covey, best-selling author of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, in order to be effective and live your best life you need to develop 7 habits. These habits will help you take charge of your routines and cultivate a lifestyle that will lead to success.

Develop a personal development plan

Various methods to develop your personal growth have been mentioned above. Some of the methods might have resonated and others might not have. Think about the methods you would like to try and make a list.

Make sure you understand why you didn’t like the things you don’t want to try. Sometimes the things that take you out of your comfort zone are the things you should be focusing on. Bookmark this site and come back and try new things.

Set goals

It is important to set your personal growth goals. If you don’t know where you are going, then it will be difficult to get there. Once you have set your goals, they will act as a roadmap to your personal growth journey.

If you use our online quiz, it will suggest things to work on. Once you see the options available, you can set your goals to ensure you implement the personal growth plan.

Describe your current situation

Where are you at in life? Are you happy with where you are right now or do you want to improve yourself further? How do you feel? Have you achieved your goals?

Actionable Advice
Describe your current situation.

Where would you like to be?

Identify the area of your life you’d like to improve. It could be your habits, relationships, work-life balance, self-esteem, etc.

Where would you like to be? How would you like to improve yourself? How would you like to feel? Which goals would you like to achieve?

When you do this exercise it is important to focus on what you want and not on what you lack. When you think about what you want, dont think about what you don’t want. Think about what you want.

Actionable Advice
Describe where you would like to be. List your short term and long term goals.

What to do you need to get to where you want to be?

Ask yourself what qualities you’ll need in order to make these changes. For example, if you want to lose weight, you might need motivation and nutrition advice. If you want to boost your self-esteem you might want to work on affirmations. If you want to cultivate inner peace, you might want to start journaling or learn how to meditate.

Actionable Advice
  1. What is stopping you from living the life you want to live?
  2. Make a list of the things you want to try (see the list above for ideas). Don’t try them all at once.

What is a reasonable period?

Your goals must be time bound but they must also be reasonable. Add a deadline to each of the changes you want to make. When you don’t set a due date then you tend to put things off and they never actually happen.

Actionable Advice
Set a deadline for your changes. Create a timeline for each of these action items. When you set deadlines it keeps you from procrastinating.

Are your goals reasonable and achievable?

Don’t tackle too many goals at once. Choose one or more goals that are reasonable and achievable.

Personal growth and development is a process and you can’t change overnight. It is better to make small changes over a long period that you actually make than grandiose changes that never actually happen.

Actionable Advice
Read your goal over again and ask yourself if it is reasonable and achievable. If not, revise and adjust if necessary.

How to track your progress

It’s important to track your progress during your self-improvement journey. This will help you recognize your accomplishments, stay accountable and make a commitment to continual improvement.

Now that you have made a list of the areas you want to focus on, describe what it is you would like to change and how you will measure your progress.

For example

  • Eating habits: change my eating habits – describe your eating habits today and how you would like to change them.
  • Exercise: what will you do, for how long and how often.
  • Affirmations: how many will you write, how often will you repeat them for and for how many days.
  • Self-care: list the activities you enjoy today and how often you do them. Make a list of activities you would like to do and how often you aim to do them.
Actionable Advice
Add your list of goals to the goal tracker.

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